how I found my style
in a world where fitting in is the only *really* acceptable option.
finding your style is ... well ... hard.
personally, I didn't properly find my style until I went to university. before that, my style had been a mix of convenience and social convergence.
growing up as a tall, chubby child made things hard, and I focused mostly on covering myself. as I started to grow into myself and develop enough confidence to try different things, my style eventually developed into what it is today - an amalgamation of a grungy, preppy, 70s e - girl. I also have a thing for obsessive colour coordination.
1. for me, a good outfit has to have some kind of solid foundation. for example, make a hat your statement piece and build the rest of the outfit around it.
here I matched my hat (ASOS) with my hair, bag (Topshop - Remi Sage Crocodile Bag which is sold out), my high neck top (UO - '90s cherub mesh print top which is sold out), my cardigan which you can't see (ASOS).
(honorable mention - the Fenty Beauty Moroccan Spice Eyeshadow Palette, in the shade Evil Genie).
the accessories make the outfit, and for that reason, build your outfit around either your hat or bag.
2. I stepped outside of my comfort zone.
I always used to be so worried about wearing what I actually wanted to through fear of being judged and picked on - especially in (my) sixth form where individual style was looked down upon as being weird, and the epitome of fashion was wearing the same Nike tracksuit as everyone else to fit in.
here I'm wearing insecurity paired with the desire to fit in. thankfully, I don't think any of this is still on sale, considering the photo was taking c. 2018, which was two years too far from my style awakening.
(we will commend the Timberland 6" black boots, though).
to an extent, this was the start of getting out of my comfort zone. the high waist mum jean was unheard of in a class full of skinny jeans, and I must admit that the fishnets gave an elevation that no one else had. I won't dispute that the outfit is, to some extent, put together, but I wouldn't be seen dead in it now.
above all, you need to not be afraid of what people might think. at the end of the day, what does society's opinions on your style mean? nothing. zero. zilch. nada. never feel pressured to fit in.
I might be walking proof that you find yourself in university, considering the fact that I haven't worn skinny jeans since 2018 and will probably never wear them again. I switched to straight and wide leg pants only (unless they are my Tommy Hilfiger x Zendaya kick flares which I would sacrifice myself for any day of the week).
3. the big chop. cutting my hair was the best decision I've made so far in my 20 years of life. not only did it unlock confidence, it unlocked a new facial structure to work with.
a haircut will completely change your look with minimal effort - I went from boring and standard; a girl whose curly hair is her only personality trait to someone sleek and sophisticated, all with a 40 minute trip to the barber's. (cutting off 20 years worth of curls
is a longer process than you can imagine).
with the right hairstyle, you can take an outfit that's a 3 and flip it into a 10.
make your hair work in proportion with your face, skin and body type. if need be, cut it, dye it, add extensions or wear a wig - make it work for you.
ignoring the filter - induced distorting of my eyeshadow, I'm wearing a full Fenty face (products tagged below), with the Anastasia Beverly Hills Modern Renaissance Palette in the shades Realgar, Venetian Red and Love Letter in an ode to Kat from Euphoria's Halloween look (and also a killer TWA).
4. mood boards, mood boards, mood boards. whether you mood board physically or digitally, they are a pivotal invention in developing a new look. explore the hashtags on instagram - my personal favourites being #moodboard, #styleboard, #outfitidea and #virtualstylist.
compile what you like and then pinpoint what they all have in common - a certain style of top, or a certain brand of shoes, etc, and start to build an inventory of key pieces around it.
put everything in one place so it's easy to find and easy to navigate.
Instagram, Pinterest and Tumblr are the best apps to use to mood board, because not only can you keep all of your dream looks in one location, you can share them and get inspiration from other people. high fashion twitter is also always a good foundation for research and inspiration.
5. I play around with makeup.
if you're new to the makeup community - welcome, and prepare to go into your overdraft. a makeup addiction is an expensive habit.
start with something neutral and relaxed. a neutral eye will work with any outfit and any colour, and will give you a solid foundation to work with.
here, I'm wearing a face full of Fenty (admittedly minus the brows): the Pro Filt'r Soft Matte Longer Foundation in the shade #350, the Pro Filt'r Instant Retouch Concealer in the shade #350, the Moroccan Spice Eyeshadow Palette in shades 'Cumin Get It' and 'Marrakush', the Gloss Bomb Universal Lip Luminizer in the shade Fu$$y, and the Glossier Boy Brow and Brow Flick, both in shade 'black'.
6. I actively ignore anyone who says "dress for your body type". these people will be enemies to your progress, happiness and confidence.
as a boxy 5'10" girl, society tells me not to wear high waisted pants through fear of being "all leg". to cut a long story short, I am all leg - but will it stop me?
these jeans changed my life - stylish and always trendy, but above all, comfortable and never out of style.
"dressing for your body" is a myth, a fallacy, a lie and a deception and I personally refuse to play by the rules implemented by an industry with its foundations in body shaming. next!
wear what makes you comfortable and confident and you will be able to unlock a happier version of yourself. maybe people will stare, they'll whisper, they might laugh but so what? there's no such thing as bad publicity.
above all, have fun and never let anyone tell you about yourself. like makeup, fashion is an art and there is no "right" way to do it.
- thelittleboy xo